Friday, June 08, 2007

Boy Crazy Girls

My niece was telling me of a falling out she had with one of her "friends". Seems that this "friend" was pissed off that the boy she liked didn't return her feelings. Instead he seems to have a thing for my niece A. instead. This "friend", who I will refer to as M., apparently sent A. a nasty note during class. It was a picture of a bottle with the word Poison written on it. Under the little doodle were the words, "Drink this bitch and die."

They are just 13 years old.

In my day, I would have waited for this girl to come outside at recess and I would have beat the crap out of her confronted her. But you have to be more careful in this time of lawsuits.

So, my niece told the principal and the mother's were called, a conference ensued, and M. was grounded. Now they are friends again.

Oh the drama.

I told my niece that this wouldn't be the first time nor the last time she was going to battle with a friend over a boy.

My advice was just not to fret over it. It's inevitable. It's not the end of the world. It's going to happen.

I recalled a story of a similar situation I went through in high school. I began dating a boy that one of my friends, T., liked. I didn't know it at the time. Instead of talking to me about it, she avoided me. I then began receiving prank phone calls on my private line, which thank goodness I had because my father would have killed me. The calls came at all times of the day. I thought it was funny at first because it was so childish. After a while the calls just got annoying.

I knew I needed to do something because quite honestly, I was getting bored with the whole thing. I had a suspicion it was T. but couldn't prove it. There was talk that T. had another girl, B., making calls too. I had to take some action. I'm glad I did because we became great friends again.

I must say, that I still don't know who I taught a lesson to on the day the phone calls stopped. We never spoke about it.

All I know is that one of them is more than likely deaf in one ear. They would have to be after I blew that coach's whistle into the phone.

12 comments:

Jen said...

13 year old girls are the most vile people on the planet. I fear the day my own little girl gets to be that age.

Shauna said...

I would never want to be 13 again. I dread when Elise is.

Maria said...

I agree with Jen....it just seems that 13 is the year of mean girls. I remember being in junior high and suddenly my circle of friends all decided not to speak to me because a popular girl named Judy decided that I needed to be taken down a peg for getting a spelling medal.

The odd thing is that I was one of those girls on whom that sort of punishment was wasted as I was more or less a loner anyway. But, still....

If I teach Liv anything, it will be to NOT be a mean girl.

Kristi said...

This is why I homeschool. No lie.

fold my laundry please said...

A coach's whistle? Brilliant! When I was in high school some girls kept calling (I didn't recognize the voices) and saying they were going to come to my house and beat me up/cut me/kill me, whatever the torture du jour was. The calls stopped when I let them rattle on until they ran out of steam and then, after a dramatic pause, I said, "Was that long enough to trace the call, Officer?" To this day I have absolutely no idea who it was.

dieselfire said...

Thankfully I never had to go through this when I was 13. That was because I was such a freak, nobody wanted to have anything to do with me. But I saw this happening to my friends and it still does affect them until today.

I live in Asia and I guess this is universal. *sigh*

reevesfarm said...

Air horn is also very effective....

Sometimes I really wish I could take over my 12yos body for the day. Just go in with both barrels blazing and clean house...verbally of course....

EE said...

My daughter turns 13 in 2 months...aghhhhhhhhhhh!

meleah rebeccah said...

teenagers are horrible, just horrible. I know I sure was. I am dreading the day my 11 year old is 13, 14, 15 (ugh)

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Mom on Coffee said...

Why do they have to grow up...

Teenage girls are horrible, terrible, no good, very bad people. I wish my kids could just skip that age.

Mommy the Maid said...

I remember those days...and I am not looking forward to them at all.

Babybull40 said...

I agree with jen.. 13 yr old girls can be so mean and cruel.. My step-daughter had problems with girls from grade 7 till now.. but not due to boys.. At least I don't think it was..